Quick, Easy, Guilt-Free Hacks For Finding “Me-Time” on Hectic Days
You’ve probably figured out by now that my name is Shanita. What you didn’t know is that I’m also Mrs. Doing-The-Most.
If you’re like me, you’re probably tight on time, but your to-do’s are carefully plotted out on your smartphone calendar, apps, whiteboards, chalkboards, and/or planners.
Let’s call this… the confessions of a chronic overachieving and over-loving mother, wife, daughter, professional and now small business owner.
You and I both know that time is incredibly precious, and you have to make the most of every moment and opportunity.
But let me ask you, keeping it 100% between us — is there time for yourself mapped out on today’s agenda?
I’m talking a nap, nail appointment, brunch with friends, a workout class, FaceTime with an old friend or anything that just brings you... joy?
Maybe you make an effort to make time… but things just come up, get in the way, or interrupt your whole flow.
I get it. Life happens. Things are insane. If you feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water, then I absolutely feel you.
It’s annoying and frustrating when you end up LAST on your very own list! I got so fed up with sacrificing my precious me-time for others that I developed a list of 7 super easy self-care hacks that I’m able to fuse into schedule without a hitch, even when my days get insane.
These 7 hacks have been Shanita-tested over the last 3 years as I have undergone my own transformation as a mom, wife, business owner, and transformational life coach.
See, most people think that transformation means doing something drastic or over the top.
I’m not going to suggest cleansing your aura, abandoning your family, quitting your job, and then devoting your life savings to attend a healing retreat in the rainforest.
Personal transformation actually happens in the very small steps that you take, when you listen to your inner wisdom and take action on what you truly desire.
Let me tell you about one of my biggest personal transformations.
I was unemployed, pregnant with my son, and nearly homeless (my apartment lease was up and I waited 4 months to hear back about the offer for my new house).
Talk about stress and mess. I literally felt like everything around me was falling apart, and I took it very personally. Until that point I’d worked so hard to build a life for my family.
I needed to do something different in order to see a different outcome. And while I wanted to run away to that healing retreat in the rainforest, I just couldn’t. What I learned was I didn’t need to — the results I wanted were all within me.
After connecting with another transformational life coach, I learned that my personal transformation wasn’t some big epiphany that comes after a 1,000 mile pilgrimage.
It was about finding myself and paying attention to my mindset and behaviors, and enjoying living moment to moment amidst the uncertainties.
I had no control over others, but I had control over whether to hide (hiding felt easy) or finding my voice and stepping into my courageous power (this felt harder, but it was doable!).
Below I’m sharing the 7 self-help hacks that I learned during my transformational coaching experience.
These simple acts of kindness to myself completely changed my life — and inspired me to go into business to serve wonderful people like you who also deserve this sense of fulfillment I’ve found.
#1 When you wake up, breathe
It’s a brand new day, so breathe it in. Whether it’s the minute your eyes open while laying in bed or when you really try to wake yourself up after your morning pee, take 7 deep breaths.
Inhale through your nose and exhale out through your mouth. Don’t rush it and don’t do it distracted (that means setting down your smartphone). Do it even if you think it’s silly, you’ll understand how amazing it feels after.
By deeply breathing, you are fueling your body with oxygen and clearing out the morning clutter from your beautiful brain. This will help you can focus on your wellness at the top of the day.
#2 While brushing your teeth, set an intention for the day
It’s so easy to dive into a million morning to-do’s before you even touch the coffee maker or tea kettle.
Why not set your day straight with a good thought about how you want to feel for the day while you’re doing something you already have to do like brushing your teeth?
What’s nice about brushing your teeth is that for most of us, we’re doing just that in front of the bathroom mirror.
Keep it simple, first think about it, “I intend to [insert how you want to show up for yourself that day]” and then once you do your final mouth rinse, speak your intention out loud in front of the mirror.
This technique is a powerful way to set a positive tone for your day and a feel-good-reminder that you can revisit no matter what comes up later on.
#3 Set a midday alarm to walk it out
We are either stuck behind our computers or standing or bending doing one of the 100 tasks that have to get done at work or at home.
So in the morning after your intention-setting, set your alarm for 12pm (or whatever time feels like a good midpoint for you) and walk for at least 10 minutes (with consistency, starting small will motivate you to work your way up to a longer amount of time).
That could look like walking around the office, walking around the block, walking up and down the stairs, or walking a few laps in the space that you’re in.
Walking will not only do your muscles good (and help you Fitbit owners get them steps in), but it will also soothe your brain when you’ve been ON all morning.
If you have babies, strap them on and take them with you.
The alarm will help you remember to walk, and the walk will make you (and the kiddies if you have them) a little happier and healthier.
#4 Say "HOORAY!"
My son constantly acknowledges the small victories, shouting “Hooray” every time he catches a ball or puts his toys away.
So, why not celebrate the fact that you got through your morning like a BOSS and made it to the afternoon with some sanity left?
Go ahead and say “Hooray” with as much gusto as you could muster up during a 3pm slowdown.
Whether your say it to yourself, say it to someone else, or text/email it to a loved one (emjoi’s included), celebrating what you achieved will help you acknowledge your badass-ness AND inspire you to get through the rest of your busy day.
# 5 Tell someone, “You’re doing a great job.”
Given that you take the time to do so much for others, this hack should be easy. Tell your kid, partner, client, or colleague that they/he/she is doing a great job on a specific endeavor.
When you give someone else a heartfelt emotional boost, the good karma comes right back to you.
I know that every time I compliment my daughter during feeding time, she gives me a sweet 4-teeth grin and opens her mouth for the next bite (which consequently makes me smile and helps meal time get a little less hectic).
#6 After-Dinner Stretch
Like an after-dinner mint that refreshes your palate and brings a little sweetness to your evening, an after-dinner stretch will reinvigorate your mood and revitalize you for the remaining evening hours (because you realize you’re tired but you still got tasks to knock out before bedtime).
No flexibility required (I like to fake it ‘til I make it). After you finish your supper, take at least two minutes to stretch one part of your body that’s carrying stress.
Some examples include neck rotations, side-to-side hip stretches, or my favorite--calf stretches (our calves tend to carry lots of toxins--who would’ve thought?).
No matter what you flex, shake, or rotate, stretching out your stress is is going to leave your muscles, and you, feeling much better after a long day.
#7 Customize an end-of-day “Thank you.”
Everyone knows that expressing gratitude is the best way to manifest happiness and reduce bad juju.
So no matter how chaotic your day went, there’s always something to be grateful for.
Don’t feel like you must commit to a fancy journal to express gratitude--you can simply customize appreciation in ways that feel good for you.
Some examples include typing it into your phone while slumped on the couch, saying it out loud in unicen with your family after dinnertime, or whispering it to your source before you fall asleep.
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