I don’t like to ask for help. I like to think that I am independent and resourceful. I only ask for help when I absolutely need it.

As of April, I needed it. I desperately needed help. Being pregnant will do that.

My first trimester was brutal. I was forced to ask for help to surpass hourly nausea, food aversions, headaches, and fatigue. Due to my woes, I sincerely thought, said, and prayed,

“HELP! Please help me!!!” 
I didn’t know what was going to manifest, but I had to believe that help would come when I trusted that something bigger would swoop in to save myself. And help arrived—it came in the following forms:
  • take-out meals and home-cooked treats packed in Tupperware from my in-laws,
  • Kaiden ripping up my to-do list,
  • life-messages from an extraordinary angel reader,
  • endless glasses of cold water with lemon and Tylenol, and
  • journal pages awaiting my hormonal curse words and complaints.
Pregnant or not, I learned to rely on any kind of assistance (God, people, leprechauns, gnomes, spirit animals, whoever wants to join the party) because I cannot do this thing called life on my own. Everyone needs help. Everyone!
So if you are looking for a little support, my question to you this month is,

How can you get the help you need?

 For you folks who do not have a problem asking for what you need, go ahead and ask away. For you independent folks, don’t shut down on me. Think about at least one area of your life where you could solicit assistance. Wouldn’t it be nice to depend on someone or something so that you don’t lose your marbles?
Set your intention (a topic we’ll cover another day) and get a little vulnerable. Asking for help means putting yourself out there and getting clear about what you need. It’s not weakness; it’s STRENGTH. You could employ technology to send an S.O.S. or confidently use your voice to make a request. In case the one person you ask is unable to come through, don’t take offense. Simply ask someone else or approach a group. If you can’t rely on humans, turn to a higher power and pray. There’s no wrong way to do it, but you must make the ask or shout “HELP!!!!!!!!!!” If you don’t ask for what you need, it’s likely that you won’t receive.
So go on and ask for help. I’ll be here cheering you on.
Coach Shanita

1 Comment

  1. Dominique on December 3, 2018 at 1:02 pm

    Thanks for sharing this in the Faith Mamas group. I really needed it. I am 2 weeks postpartum and my husband has been the main person helping me. We have 3 energetic boys and a newborn. My husband returns to work on Thursday and I have been freaking out. This post reminds me to not freak out and to think outside the box for ways to get help.

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